Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Companionship & Connection: PAWS

                       (From The Way-Back Files:  A&U, September 2017)

There’s no way around it: we’re not in Mayberry anymore. We lead fragmented often isolated lives. So we look to our pets for the companionship and sense of connection that neighbors and others used to provide.

This is doubly true for people with HIV/AIDS. Despite all the research that has been done, there’s still a stigma attached to the disease in some quarters. “Animal love is so special because it’s so non-judgmental,” observes Kaushik Roy, executive director of Pets Are Wonderful Support (PAWS) in San Francisco. “And for some of the people who have lost a lot of their friends, their networks, their chosen families, they’re facing deep isolation.”

PAWS came into being as a result of the HIV/AIDS epidemic in San Francisco. Back in 1986, volunteers at the city’s AIDS Foundation Food Bank quickly noticed that their clients were turning around and feeding the donated food to their pets. So, the volunteers reasoned, there was a need for a different kind of food bank -- one that would offer these devoted cat and dog owners a way to obtain pet food and supplies without skimping on the necessities of life for themselves.

The result was PAWS, which emerged in October of 1987 as an independent non-profit organization. It was, Roy explains, probably one of the first non-profit groups in the world that was designed to specifically “keep companion animals together with their owners, who might be sick, disabled, or home-bound.” It was certainly the first organization of its type in the U.S. and “a catalyst for many other organizations.” Much later, in 2015, PAWS became part of The Shanti Project. “We were really excited to have PAWS join forces with us,” Roy recalls, “because it was the best way to keep PAWS going strong. It was also a good mission fit.”

Strangely enough, “[t]he roles that companion animals play in supporting people living with HIV have been historically overlooked,” according to a 2015 article by Allison Kabel, Nidhi Khosla, and Michelle Teti. The studies they looked at showed “that pets provide PLH/A [People Living with HIV/AIDS] with an avenue for love, support, physical activity, and perhaps even social interactions with others, all of which are beneficial to the owners.” In their own study, which involved HIV+ women from two cities in the Midwest, Kabel, Khosla, and Teti discovered that the subjects’ pets were often regarded as spiritual guardians “looking out for or watching over someone from beyond the tangible realm.” They were also seen as an “unconditional source of support,” giving “devotion and absolute loyalty that is not subject to the influences, prejudices, or stigma of the outside community.” Last, but not least, companion animals provided these women with “a sense of purpose and feeling [of being] meaningful or significant.”

Roy seconds these observations, remarking that “animals are often the biggest source of support and compassion. Our pets are part of our families. For PAWS clients, they’re often their only family – often the only reason they have to get out of bed.”

Isolation is, he adds, “a considerable factor in terms of health. One of the things we’re delving into more is the long-term survivor community, which has some special challenges.” And one of those challenges is the “accelerated aging process from being on the meds. So a lot of the people who have been on the meds 20-plus years might be in their 50s but have a 70-year-old body.” Many of them are also on fixed incomes, a fact that puts them at higher risk for eviction.

All of these factors make their pet companions doubly precious. So, over time, PAWS has expanded its services. The two major services are, of course, free pet food and vouchers for veterinary care. But now there’s a critical illness fund for more serious issues, such as cancer and surgery. Another program, “Ask the Vet,” allows clients to do just that regarding routine health issues so that they “can save money. A lot of volunteer vets are contributing their services.”

The organization also provides free cat litter, “cat stuff,” and dog washes as well as free prescriptions and flea medications when possible. And there are more than 500 volunteers in the San Francisco area who do emergency foster care and dog-walking.

Some of the clients have been coming in for so long, there’s a real bond between them and the volunteers. So the latter go out of their way to help. Case in point: one client was on the East Coast when it became necessary to put his dog down before he could fly back home. PAWS arranged for the client to have face time on the computer so that he could say good-bye to his old friend.

The organization also makes a point of supporting clients in the days following their bereavement. “When somebody loses a pet, there’s obviously a grieving process,” Roy muses. “We try to be there for them. But when they’re ready to look for a new pet, they can get re-enrolled.”

But all too frequently, it’s the human who is “terminal, and we bring the cat in to say good-bye. And if the human doesn’t have arrangements or anyone to give their pet to, we make arrangements so that the human can pass away knowing that that’s been taken care of.”

In the end, we’re talking about an emotional lifeline. Yes, there are health precautions that must be taken but not as many as you might think. And they’re pretty obvious ones. Steve Weinstein, a journalist who has been covering the AIDS crisis since the early 1980s, goes through some of these. Stick to cats and dogs and forgo “reptiles or exotic animals such as ferrets.” Make sure those cats and dogs are healthy. (“There are already plenty of people willing to take on the responsibility of helping a sick animal.”) Don’t let your pet lick your face or any cuts you may have. Make sure that somebody else changes your cat’s litterbox.

The benefits outweigh the possible risks, however. Having a pet is “grounding,” Weinstein maintains, adding, “If you’re laid up in the hospital, knowing that there’s a pet waiting at home to be taken care of – and to take care of you – provides as much a spur to getting well as a bookshelf of self-help guides.”

A vet friend of mine worked with the A.I.D. a Pet program -- a smaller version of PAWS -- at The Living Center in Hartford, Connecticut back in the 1990s. “It’s obvious that there’s no shortage of love on the part of the owner for these dogs and cats,” he told me in an interview we did back then. “In a lot of cases, the cat or dog keeps the person going. You know, put yourself in the place of someone who’s been diagnosed with this illness, and you’ve got to be depressed. And they’ve proven that having a cat or dog goes a long way toward combating the depression that goes with being diagnosed with H.I. V. They [the animals] love you unconditionally.”

Non-judgmental…unconditional…unconditionally…These words keep coming up in the dialogue about people with HIV/AIDS and their animal companions. And that’s why there are now so many variations on PAWS nationwide. Some provide low-cost spay/neuter surgery and veterinary care, while others offer pet-food banks and other services. But they all have one common goal: keeping that lifeline going.

Monday, October 8, 2018

A Calling and More: Carol Marsh & Miriam's House

                      (From The Way-Back Files:  A&U, September 2017)

For Carol Marsh, starting Miriam’s House was something that she felt called upon to do. “It felt like coming home,” she recalls, “and I think that is the hallmark of a calling.”

Marsh founded the Washington, D.C. residence for homeless women with HIV/AIDS in 1996. But in many ways, she had been moving toward this kind of work since her teen years, when she’d read Catherine Marshall’s Christy. The 1967 bestselling novel about a young school teacher doing her damnedest to bring education to children in Appalachia had fired Marsh’s imagination: she’d seen herself as being “a benevolent helper of others” and making sense of all “the cruelty and inequity” in the world. There’d been comfort in “dreaming of a life of service in which I would make things perfect for some small village or group of children. For that they would, of course, love and appreciate me.”

But the path to our true callings is seldom a straight one. We take wrong turns, get waylaid, or lose sight of where we’re headed. “I lost that vision for awhile,” Marsh admits. “I moved to Washington, D. C. at 35, and that’s when I re-connected with a passion that had been mine as a teenager.”

She threw herself into the work of bringing her vision of Miriam’s House to life. She “didn’t want to create a cookie-cutter program that forced women to comply or leave,” Marsh writes in her memoir Nowhere Else I Want to Be (Inkshares 2016), “so we opted for an open-to-the-possibilities, organic kind of growth that, while it achieved its goal of allowing residents to help shape this new program, also left us in chaos much of the time.” She started out “with a few rules about sobriety and violence and being able to live cooperatively in community but soon realized that they needed to go beyond that.

For the disease was, she saw, only part of the story that each woman brought with her. The other part of the story – call it the back story or the subtext – was even more disturbing. (At Goucher College, she was, Marsh explains, encouraged to dig deeper and go “underneath the stories.”) Juanita, for instance, had begun shooting up at 14 in an attempt to escape from a reality that included savage beatings by her own mother. Alyssa had been pimped out by a drug-addicted mother when she was 12; despite that, she still loved and kept reaching out to the parent who never came to see her during her time at Miriam’s House.

Being with Juanita, Alyssa, and the others “transformed me,” Marsh reflects now. “Their generosity of spirit was a major part of that transformation.” The living situation at Miriam’s House was, by its very nature, often volatile. “I was never able to embrace the volatility, but I learned to accept it.” She cites a quote by journalist and social activist Dorothy Day -- “Don't call me a saint. I don't want to be dismissed so easily” -- and comes up with her own variation on that particular theme. “I say to myself, 'Don't gloss over the difficulties and the challenges and suffering -- the sorrow of Miriam's House.' Since I can't do the work anymore, it would be easy to sentimentalize. Especially when I think of the women living together, watching each other get sicker and die [or] sometimes get better. So the women who were declining were watching other women improve, and the women who were improving were watching the other women decline and were being there for each other. So there's that dichotomy. That can't be sentimentalized, and it shouldn't be."

She learned a lot about herself in the process. “I had to crash through barriers of low self-esteem and anxiety,” she says. There were other barriers, too: the sense “of not being a good leader and having judgmental, prideful feelings about the way the women and my staff spoke, cooked, and held conversations….I had an image of myself as a kind, compassionate, understanding person and thought I knew how I’d be in relationship to the women – as a member of the community and as a leader.” Gradually, she found it easier to step outside of herself and be present for the women, accompanying them to the emergency room or sitting by their bedsides when they were dying. To just be with them, no matter how difficult it was.

Marsh never lost that sense of her work there being a calling. But she also came to realize that that doesn’t necessarily mean being led “to some small and easy place. I think that’s a hallmark of a calling – it takes you into the broken places, your own included….You have a mountain-top experience when you get a calling – and everything feels good, possible though scary – but then there’s the descent. As you descend, you need to translate the mountain-top experience into ordinary daily life.”

Marsh captures all this in her book. But she also shows us how her teenage Christy-like ideal gave way to something more grounded and how “being in service to was gradually transformed into being present to. It changed into a kind of companionship that, while never in denial about the very status differential between us, made for an easy camaraderie of reciprocity rather than always a giving/receiving exchange in which I had all the power.” There was “transformation in changing an adult’s diapers and learning to do it lovingly, without ego or hidden agenda.” It was in bringing an Easter basket to a resident in hospital, only to find that she’d just passed away; in trying to make a feeble elderly man understand that his daughter had just died of the virus; and in “patt[ing] the cold, swollen hand” of an intubated woman who was no longer aware of anything in this world.

“That was the thing about Miriam’s House,” Marsh reflects wistfully. “You had to keep giving it permission to break your heart….Over the years I had come to terms with the feeling that the needs were too much, the resources – mine and the world’s -- too few, energy and will in too short supply.”

Despite all the emotional wear and tear, she thought that they would all somehow manage to keep on keeping on. During the years at Miriam’s House, however, Marsh’s chronic migraines had become more debilitating. Finally, in 2009, she decided to step down from the directorship. She felt that it was a good move from both “a personal perspective and an organizational perspective since the women were not getting what they deserved from me.”

Miriam’s House is still in operation, but it’s no longer the place that she described so vividly in Nowhere Else I Want to Be. “The staffing, program, and purpose are different because AIDS is, thankfully, no longer a death sentence. There is effective treatment.”

In the prologue of her book, Marsh talks about “tak[ing] dictation from my heart.” That was, she says now, “part of the grieving process after I had to leave. I didn't want to forget the women and how they'd changed me....But when you're grieving, you're kind of immersed in a whirl of feelings that make it easy to romanticize the past. That kind of sentiment, however, did a disservice to me and to all we went through together at Miriam's House.”

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Fosters & Foster Failures

When you do rescue work, you quickly learn that there are fosters and "foster failures." The "failures" aren't, as you might think, the cats or dogs you can't manage. No, they're the ones who creep into your heart and set up shop. Permanently.

Cora, a Ruddy Abyssinian, was my first foster. She had been pulled from a murder-suicide house in another part of the state: she then landed at the local Animal Control, where her time was running out. She was about 9-years-old, miserable, and her name wasn’t originally Cora. But Cora Martino of Pitter Patter Feline Rescue, Inc. in Stamford found out about her and contacted a friend in the Connecticut branch of Siamese Rescue, who in turn contacted my friend Susan Graham of Atlanta Abyssinian Rescue. So, figuring that a fresh start was in order, I decided to give the frightened Aby girl her benefactor’s name.

Cora the cat lived in my study, and for a long time, I didn’t see much of her. She hid under my mother-in-law’s secretary, only coming out when she absolutely had to. Then, slowly but surely, she began slipping out and huddling in the space between the window and the low bookcase. Hawkeye, Phoebe, and Fey wandered in and out – they were, after all, the Office Cats – but they didn’t pay her any mind.

Then, one afternoon, I was sitting at the computer and glimpsed something Ruddy and quick-moving out of the corner of my eye. I turned, and there was Cora perched on the wide arm of my captain’s chair. She began butting her head against me. She was ready to trust again.

Somehow I had never felt that Cora was meant to stay with me. But I knew someone that she was right for: my old friend Cel. So, when the time was right, Cel came and got her. Cora made the transition beautifully. I saw her a few times before she and Cel moved down to Arkansas: she was happy and loved, and she looked years younger than she actually was.

Cora died a couple of years ago. I was saddened when I heard the news. With rescues, you always want them to have more time with their forever people…time to make up for all the bad stuff that came before. But then I reminded myself that Cora had had three incredible years with Cel – years that had wiped away all the horrors she had gone through.

Dulcie the Ragdoll showed up at my house the following summer. She was, Animal Friends of Connecticut (AFOC) Director Judy Levy had initially been told, in her late teens, and she didn’t get along well with other cats. There was also a disturbing story about her having been kept in a “box” (a cage?) by her original owners.

Well, the Ragdoll who arrived at my home wasn’t elderly. Middle-aged, maybe, but cat years away from collecting Social Security. She also didn’t mind sharing space with other felines. She didn’t interact with them much, but that probably had more to do with her having been kept in some sort of kitty solitary confinement at her old home.

Which brings us to the “box” story. That might’ve been true. She walked very stiffly and had some trouble jumping up on the cat trees at first.

Happy in her new environment, Dulcie shone. She was an affectionate, gentle-natured cat, and I was deeply tempted to keep her. (Ricky, Zeke’s Ragdoll-cross and another AFOC alumnus, would’ve seconded that emotion: he had a big crush on her.) There is something incredibly moving about a cat learning to trust again. It’s like watching a rose unfold.

When a cat like Dulcie shows up in rescue, a lot of people see it as a chance to get a free purebred. Lorrie was different, and I knew that almost from the get-go. “We just lost our Maine Coon a few months ago,” she explained over the phone. “Then I saw this cat on the website, and…well, I had a Ragdoll years ago, and I’ve always wanted another one.” We talked for awhile longer and agreed that she and her husband should come by and meet Dulcie.

They clicked immediately. “Are you ready for somebody to spoil you rotten?” Lorrie asked Dulcie, who was lounging atop the cat tree in the breezeway. Dulcie was. Within a week, she left for her new home in the most elegant carrier I’d ever seen. I missed her, but I knew that she had found her person -- someone who was going to love her the way that her previous owners hadn’t. 

Things were fairly quiet on the foster front for awhile. Then, in the fall, Judy called me. They had just rescued a lot of kittens from a feral cat colony in New Britain. Could I foster four of them?

"I can foster two," I replied firmly.

I went to the Avon Veterinary Clinic, where the furry little refugees were staying. Zeke was working at the kennels there, and he'd already checked them out. "Take the plushy gray one," he'd advised me, "and the tortoiseshell."

Well, I followed his advice in part: I took the stocky gray male kitten. Then I saw his smaller inkblot of a sister. She was hauntingly like Bandit, the big black cat we'd lost to cancer a few years earlier. He, too, had been a velvety little inkblot when I'd gotten him for Zeke....

So she, and not the tortie girl, came home with me. Zeke named the big gray guy "Thor"; and I, determined that his sister should have some goddess power to match, named her "Freya."
The kittens, blissfully unaware of their foster status, decided that they had traded up into a much nicer cat colony. Thor, who was very much “a cat’s cat,” liked hanging out with the older cats. Freya – whom I’ve always suspected of being a Siamese in disguise -- was more people-oriented and followed me around a lot.

There were a few calls for them. “I think Freya and Thor need to go together,” I told Judy. “I’ll miss them when they go – but I’ll feel better if they’re together.”

Shortly after that, a woman called, expressing interest in both of them. We arranged for her to come see them. She never showed.

The little ripple of interest in Freya and Thor died away. Finally, I called Judy. “About the kittens--,” I began.

“You want to keep them, don’t you?” she replied.

I did, and four years later, they’re still here. They are my foster failures, and I don’t think that I’ve ever failed so happily at anything.


The next batch of foster kittens came the following summer, right around the time that Zeke and his girlfriend, Jordan, moved into their apartment. There were four of them: Milo, a red tabby; Pip and Oblio, two orange-and-white guys and spitting images of the late great Derv Sr.; and Mr. Rochester, a study in gray and white. The boys were able to eat on their own but still relatively young, so I put them in Zeke’s old room.

Phoebe, whose mothering instincts had remained strong, checked on the boys periodically. One morning, she wandered in to discover that Rochester couldn’t quite get the hang of purring and that somebody else had forgotten to cover up in the litterbox. Mama Phoebe swung into action. First, she took care of the mess in the litterbox; then she sat down to work with Rochester. Within a half-hour, he had the beginnings of a very respectable kitten-purr, and everybody had gotten a firm but kindly lecture about The Importance of Covering Up. Only dogs did not cover up, she told them. The kittens were very impressed and took her lecture to heart.

I was impressed, too. Phoebe, I told a friend, was a combination of Elizabeth I and Mary Poppins. Actually, I think that the Elizabeth part of the equation was strong. I could just see her in a farthingale and ruff, fending off her own version of the Spanish Armada…..

The kittens became a blessing. I was having a bad case of empty nest syndrome, and their playfulness distracted me. And one early afternoon, I came home, utterly spent, and headed straight for their room. Gremlin – the gray-and-white kitten that Zeke had dragged home from a tag sale back in fourth grade – had just made his last trip to the vets’. He’d suffered from irritable bowel disease for years, and Tom suspected that the IBD had paved the way for lymphoma.

I can’t say that Gremlin had ever been one of my kindred-spirit cats; but in the last few years, I’d come to understand him better through our Reiki sessions, and that understanding had led to a deeper affection. I’d held him as the needle went in, and he’d crossed over, purring….

I sat down on the hardwood floor now and watched the brothers tumbling over each other. Rochester in his gray-and-white fur suit stood out from the rest. In fact, he looked very much as Gremlin had at the same age.

I was still sad, but the kittens had managed to take the edge off that sadness.

They placed fairly easily. Milo went to live with a retired professor named Lou. Lou was in her 70s, but the folks at the clinic knew her well: she’d brought her other cats there, and they would see to it that Milo had a new home if anything happened to her. Zeke adopted Rochester as a buddy for Ricky.

A couple came by one Friday evening with two children to see Pip and Oblio. The children were young but not too young, and they were very good with the kittens.

Pip or Oblio? The family couldn’t make up their minds. Pip was more outgoing; Oblio was shy but very sweet. Both were pretty boys. I held my breath. And then the mother looked at the kids and smiled. “How about we take both?” she asked.

It was better than I’d hoped for. The two orange-and-white guys went off with their new family. The room seemed kinda large and empty, but I was pleased that no kitten had been left behind.


The room didn’t stay empty long, though. Within a few days, I had an elderly Maine Coon named Boris living there. His person, an AFOC member, had died, and nobody wanted him.

He was a nice old gent – friendly and still handsome, his coat a sort of root-beer-float color. At first, he stayed in this new digs full-time; then he started to mosey around the house during the day. He always returned to the room at night. I think that he missed his human very much and couldn’t understand how he'd ended up in this strange place. I’d sit with him before going to bed, and some of the other cats would stop in, too. He enjoyed having the company of his own kind. But he tired easily – he was about 18 -- and he always looked relieved when they left.

Boris had chronic kidney disease (CKD) and the beginnings of kitty dementia. He was fine as long as he kept to a small area: if he wandered down to the cellar, say, he’d get very agitated and begin miaowing until I came and got him. So I tried to keep him on the second floor as much as possible.

He was gone in a little over two months. “We knew this was coming,” Tom said quietly, as he went to get the needle. I held on to Boris while we waited: the day was overcast, but the examination room was suddenly filled with light. For a moment or two, I seemed to see a younger, more vibrant Boris flickering in and out of the room while Old Boris was still breathing….

His actual dying was very quick, very peaceful. I patted him gently and left. Somewhere, I felt sure, his spirit-self was bounding over the bridge to meet the woman who had loved him so much.


The 14-year-old Bombay came the next summer. He had lost his best cat buddy and sunk into a deep depression, which was compounded by a move to a new house. He began soiling and wetting outside the box: that led to his being confined to the cellar. When the problem didn’t get better, his owners began looking for a new home for him. Somebody put them in touch with Judy, and she put me in touch with them.

That’s how he ended up in my study one hot Saturday afternoon. After his people left, I went into check on him. He lifted a miserable little black face up to me and hissed. His world had fallen completely apart, and humans were not high on his list just then.

I threw out his plastic dishes and got him some nice bowls from the kitchen. Then I changed his name. Ever since Cora, I’ve done that with most of my fosters, feeling that it gives them a fresh start. And, honestly, I usually hate  the ones they come with. But I’d always had a weakness for the name “Merlin.” (There had already been Merlin, the stray that Tim and I had fed down at his parents’ place on Carolina Beach and, of course, Ms. Merlyn, Zeke’s very first cat.)  Somehow I felt that the sad-faced Bombay needed a magical name. So “Merlin” it was.

“But sometimes,” Cynthia Rylant writes in The Van Gogh CafĂ©, “magic takes a little while longer to get where it’s going.” In Merlin the Bombay’s case, magic seemed to have missed the train completely. He hid in a part of the study and came out to eat and have diarrhea on my work table. Hawkeye lost the mail basket that he’d slept in since becoming Chief Office Cat, and I – well, I learned to shut up my papers in my desk.

The diarrhea stopped after a couple of weeks – it had, after all, probably just been a combination of nerves and getting used to a new food. He came out more. But his spirits were still very low.

Around this time, I got the chance to do a phone interview author and cat therapist Carole Wilbourn for my on-line cat behavior column. I had read her book Cats on the Couch many years before, so I was pretty excited about this. Carole was, I found out, very easy to talk to; she was also trained in Reiki, which gave us some common ground.

Merlin was hanging out in the study with me, of course. I told Carole a little of his story. At the end of the interview, she surprised me by suggesting that we send Reiki to his situation then and there. I’d never done a joint Reiki session with anyone before, and it was a powerful experience.

Shortly afterwards, Merlin and I had a breakthrough of sorts. Thinking he might be ready for a buddy, I moved him into Zeke’s old room with Titan, my Aby stud cat and all-around sociable guy. I set up Merlin’s bed and dishes and the cat bed in what had been the closet. He could get in and out of it easily since one door no longer shut.

He seemed pretty content there at first. Then, the next morning, he slipped out of the room with Titan; when I tried to catch him, he went feral on me and bit and scratched the hell out of my hands. Finally, I got him back into his little closet lair and went downstairs to treat my wounds.

I came back upstairs a little later to check on him: it was important to mend the breach as soon as possible. Merlin let me pick him up and burrowed against me. He knew that he’d messed up and looked…well, like I wouldn’t love him anymore. I held him securely and said gently, “It was much too soon.” Then I brought him back down to the study and set up his things where they’d been before. I think he was relieved. He had abandonment issues, and he also probably hadn’t been held in a long time.

So we understood each other a little better. It was kinda like that moment with Anne Sullivan and little Helen Keller at the pump in “The Miracle Worker.” The Anne Bancroft version, of course.

While all this was going on, my friend Leza put me in touch with a friend of hers in Seattle – another Lori, as it so happened, just a different spelling. Leza had seen Merlin’s pictures on Facebook and shown them to Lori; the latter was in turn taken by his resemblance to a black American Shorthair she’d once owned. There was messaging back and forth, followed by a long phone conversation.

She was the right person for the sad little man-cat, just as the other Lorrie had been the right one for Dulcie.

We made arrangements for my transporter friend, Donna, to fly out to Connecticut to pick Merlin up. Donna did one better: she got a rental car at the airport and drove out to my house on a Friday night, much to my relief. I’d been worried about him freaking out and getting loose in the airport.

The flight out of Hartford was an early one. So I brought Merlin back up to Titan’s room; then Donna and I sat down and had a good chat. But it wasn’t just a matter of catching up. We wanted Merlin to get used to Donna before they boarded the plane.

It must’ve worked because he even let her slip the travel harness on before she went to bed. And he was, she told me afterwards, incredibly good during the whole long flight, even letting her take him out of the carrier and pet him at one point.

He took to his new human and her other cat right away. Part of this was due to Lori’s having a good handle on what Merlin needed. The other part was simply that he now had

The faces of rescue (top to bottom):  Merlin; Cora; Mr. Rochester in a cat bed/boat built by Zeke; Dulcie; Freya with Mama Phoebe, a former stray herself; Boris; and Thor.

what he had been desperately missing – a cat friend. After all, Merlin’s troubles had started with the death of his original buddy.

Fostering is a curious thing. Most of the time, it’s just a stop along the way, a chance for a rescue animal to detox before finding its forever home. Sometimes it becomes hospice, as it did in Boris’s case; and sometimes it marks the beginning of exciting new (and hopefully long) lives for some abandoned kittens. And sometimes the fosters don’t go anywhere, as Freya and Thor can testify. But when it’s handled right, the magic goes where it needs to go.

Friday, June 16, 2017

A Tree Army & a Godsend: The Civilian Conservation Corps

(An updating of a very old piece from The Way-Back Files –The Farmington Valley Herald, July 1979.) 

“I propose to create [the CCC] to be used in complex work, not interfering with abnormal employment, and confining itself to forestry, the prevention of soil erosion, flood control and similar projects. I call your attention to the fact that this type of work is of definite, practical value, not only through the prevention of great present financial loss, but also as a means of creating future national wealth.”
                               -- Franklin D. Roosevelt 

Roosevelt’s Tree Army. That’s what they called it. In April 1933, the Civilian Conservation Corps (CCC) camps were established by executive order of President Franklin Delano Roosevelt. Always passionate about conservation – what else would one expect from a cousin of Theodore Roosevelt? – he had set up a smaller but similar program in New York when he was governor and knew that it could work on a national scale as well.

The CCC became one of the most successful and most popular of all the New Deal relief programs, providing unmarried young men between 18 and 26 across the country with work, housing, and food. During its nine-year run, it supervised such projects as the construction of roads and trails through state forests; fire prevention and control; and forest planning. Other projects involved re-seeding grazing lands; soil-erosion control; stream improvement; the erection of fire towers; and the building of wildlife refuges, fish-rearing facilities, and animal shelters.

There were also educational programs in the camps. The success of these programs “was determined by the initiative and qualifications of the Educational Adviser stationed in each camp,” observes the National Association of the Civilian Conservation Corps Alumni. “The attitude and cooperation of the camp commander was also important. These programs varied considerably from camp to camp, both in efficiency and results. However, throughout the Corps, more than 40,000 illiterates were taught to read and write. Since most of this training was on the enrollee's own time, undoubtedly each gained that for which he worked the hardest, be it high school diploma, learning to type, or wood carving.”

In Connecticut and New York state, workers doggedly fought the gypsy moth epidemic, Dutch elm disease, and the European pine shoot moth. When the Colt Dike in Hartford burst in the spring of 1936 and flooded one-fifth of the city, the CCC offered its services to Governor Wilbur Cross.

The state “turned CCC men out of camps to help wherever they could,” recalled former State Forester W. F. Schreeder. The program was, he added “cheap for what they [the government] paid.”

Schreeder, who had worked for the CCC as a surveying engineer, said that when the program began, each state had the “privilege” of maintaining camps. There were 20 of them scattered throughout Connecticut.

George Mueller, one of my parents’ oldest neighbors, had worked in a CCC camp as a young man. The work was, he told me, “a wonderful opportunity for the boys who liked it. Jobs were nil – there just weren’t any.”

Mueller had worked on gypsy moth control with the CCC in upstate New York for a year. He remembered going through given sections of the woods, checking each tree, and cutting down infested brush. Forest rangers would occasionally put up false egg clusters made of clay to make sure that the men were doing the job thoroughly – and they “raised particular hell if they found out you hadn’t.”

The program was semi-military in its insistence on following regulations. Inspections were held in the mornings, and “if you took a day off, you were AWOL, same as you were in the Army.” Repeating offenders would be dropped from the CCC: there were always more men looking for work.

The army “actually ran the camps,” feeding, clothing, and housing the men, Schreeder explained. They received $30 dollars a month: $25 would go home to their families, and they’d keep $5 for personal expenses.

One camp in Connecticut was, Schreeder recalled, made up entirely of World War I vets. They more than appreciated the work. The Hoover administration had denied them their bonuses, and they had suffered heavily from public disapproval of American involvement in the war.

“After World War I, Army enrollment lowered,” Mueller corroborated. “The government didn’t want a big standing army. Being assigned to the CCC camps was good duty for them [the vets].”

Both he and Schreeder agreed that the program was run satisfactorily for the amount of time and money put into it. “If we had a program like that today, the state would be better off,” the latter declared. “It took the boys off the streets, taught ‘em to work, and made men out of ‘em.”

Mueller compared the CCC favorably to some of the current Comprehensive Employment and Training (CETA) programs, which he viewed as being sloppily set up and a waste of money. Perhaps, he speculated, being run along military guidelines kept the New Deal program from taking a similar turn.

“I’m not sure if young men would work for those wages now,” he remarked. “At the time, we thought it was a godsend. People were able to say, ‘I’m still working and supporting my family. I’m earning what I’m getting.’”

Schreeder took a slightly more wistful tone. “I wonder,” he said in a letter written after our interview, “how many people realize that many of the facilities they now enjoy at state parks and state forests were originally provided by the work of the CCC.”

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

The Twice-Given Gift

I remember waking up with excitement the morning after my daughter M’s birth. The feeling was the same as the one I’d had back in my childhood, when my parents had bought me a “surprise” – a book, a stuffed animal, or some small toy – and slipped it under my pillow. I couldn’t wait to see her. But hospital’s day nursery wasn’t open yet. In the meantime, a friend’s wife came in to visit: they had a daughter, too, and we chattered away about how much fun girls were to buy for, how you could do so much more with them, etc., etc.

And it was fun. I’d always liked kids, but I’d never realized how fascinating babies could be. I watched M. discover her own shadow, delight in the family cats, and sit spell-bound in the tub, watching the bubbles I blew for her. We had our own rituals and, once she learned to talk, our own catch-phrases, too…the most important one being right before she went to bed. “I like you, and I love you,” I’d tell her.

“I like you, and I love you,” M. would sing back.

My husband Tim died in a car accident when M. was just three-and-a-half-years-old. Family and friends did what they could to help. But, at the end of the day, it was the two of us. We watched movies, did board games and puzzles, went trick-or-treating together, and had picnics on an old quilt in the driveway on Sundays. She pulled me out of my comfort zone: I found myself volunteering at her grammar school; putting together a couple badge-worthy programs for her Brownie troop; playing miniature golf with her; and trying to help her learn how to ride a bike. This last one was especially tricky because I’d never been taught to ride one myself. So I just walked alongside her, holding onto the handle bars and doing my best to keep her upright.

At the end of 7th grade, M. began talking about being bisexual. I was surprised – I’d seen no indication at that point that she was attracted to other girls – but I figured it would all sort itself out somehow.

Only some things, I was to learn, don’t sort themselves out nice and neatly. Her confusion was deeper than I’d realized, and it was about a lot more than orientation. It merged with what a psychiatrist told me was “a low-grade depression” over the father she couldn’t remember, creating an emotional firestorm that I didn’t think we’d ever come out of. She cut herself, had suicidal thoughts, and once even tried to run away. There were emergency-room trips, hospitalizations, outpatient therapy, and a slow, often painful re-building of our relationship.

We got it back, though – enough so that when M. told me she thought that she was “full-on lesbian,” I accepted it unhesitatingly. After all, I had family members and friends who were gay, so it wasn’t such a big adjustment. Her girlfriends came over, and we talked about what was happening in her various relationships.

But by her sophomore year of high school, there was a new bend in the road: M. had come to understand that the issue was not one of orientation but of gender. That she was a male trapped in a female body. M. began dressing as a boy and calling herself/himself Zeke.

This was a harder issue for me to deal with but not for the reasons you’d think. There had been a lot of loss in my life already, and all I could think was that I was going to lose the daughter who had been my joy and comfort since Tim’s death. Selfish but true.

A woman said to me, “You have been given as great gift. You had the privilege of having a daughter for many years, and now you have the privilege of having a son.” She was right, of course – my brain realized it the moment she spoke. But hearts take a lot longer to catch up.

Oddly enough, it was Zeke who found the words I needed. They had been written by a father whose daughter, like mine, had realized that nature had made a mistake. “I find that I am not ready to give up the little girl that I loved so much,” this unknown man had written. “She is special to me – I love her and don’t want her to go, even though I know I must. In a way, this is like a death and a birth in the family at the same time. Allow me to mourn the loss of my daughter and, I assure you, I will rejoice at the birth of my new son.”

I sat in on a support group for parents with trans children: mostly, I just listened, but it helped knowing that there were other parents wrestling with the same issues. I went to some of the counseling sessions that Zeke had with his therapist, who was transgender herself, only MTF (male-to-female), and read some of the articles she gave him. And slowly, I came to understand how much Zeke needed to do this.

Then came the surgeries. I went out to Arizona with him for one of them, and we stayed at a condo not far from the hospital. A couple of nights after the operation, Zeke called me into his bedroom. Would I feel weird, he asked, checking the surgery site to see if everything looked O.K.?

I gave a mental shrug. “No,” I replied. “After all, if you had been born in a male body, I would’ve seen it by now.”

That was when my heart and I finally got where we needed to go. I had a son, and he needed looking after. Heart and I were good with that.

In a later episode of “Merlin” – a brilliant re-imagining of the Arthurian legend, courtesy of the BBC – the Great Dragon, who has mentored the young warlock, says, “From the moment I met you, I saw something that was invisible. Now it is there for all to see.” I feel that way about Zeke, and it has nothing to do with his change from female to male. He is living his truth and doing what he can to help others in the trans community live theirs. And, as Albert Schweitzer once said, “[t]he one essential thing is that we have light in ourselves. Our strivings will be recognized by others, and when people have light in themselves, it will shine out from them.”

Zeke has that light. I like him, and I love him, and I still have much to learn from him.

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

So Many Windows: Women Going Back to School

Back in 1980, when I was an undergraduate at St. Joseph College in West Hartford, there were the two older women students in my American history class. They were kind of a novelty to me, having just transferred from a very “male” school. And they sure added a lot to the class, I thought: they had insights and life experience that we 18- and 19-year-olds didn’t. They got credit for some of that life experience, too; and that, too, was impressive.

Fast-forward to the present. St. Joseph College is now the University of St. Joseph and has a strong Adult Learning Program, started in 1985.. “My positions have changed,” observes Dr. Raymie Wayne, the university’s Associate Dean of Graduate and Professional Studies. Wayne transferred to Saint Joseph’s back in 1991 and returned to teach in the social work department in 2003. “So, sometimes what you see depends on where you sit….What I see now is that a lot of women have tremendous pressure and responsibility in their lives, combined with drive and motivation.”

The women students she deals with are definitely juggling a lot of balls. They’re not only parents, but they may also “be caregivers for their parents or other aging members of their families. They very often have demanding jobs that are not flexible. Sometimes even their supervisors feel threatened that they’re going back to school and don’t do the things that would make it easier.” Many have “tenuous living situations” and/or demanding husbands or partners. “Families vary in how much they understand being a part-time or full-time student, so they vary in how much support they provide or, alternately, in how much they distract.”

The Adult Learning Program currently offers majors in five areas: social work; accounting; management; psychology; and an RN – to B. S. in nursing, which allows students with associate’s degrees from state community colleges to earn bachelor’s degrees in science. Each has “some accelerated path to graduate studies,” Wayne explains. “In some cases, the student would have to apply. No guarantee, but the opportunity is there.”

Wayne is also working on revitalizing and expanding the university’s prior learning assessment – that life-experience piece of the puzzle that seemed so new and radical to me back in 1980. “It has had different names and different configurations over the years,” she says, “but what has remained the same is the commitment to working adults who are returning to school[,…] provid[ing] them with the small classes and individualized attention and caring community that is St. Joseph’s.” In her eyes, they are simply honoring the core values set down in its mission statement. The Sisters of Mercy, who founded the school back in 1932, “were a truly amazing progressive group,” determined to create a learning environment where professional studies and the liberal arts were in balance with one another.

“A majority of the students surveyed were between the ages of the ages of 35 and 49,” the associate dean remarks, “but there have been plenty of students that are older than that on campus as well.” Very often, she adds, they are “the first in their families to be attending college. They are so committed. But the driving force is not that they only want to learn and better their lives but also be a role model for their children.”

Roberta Rogers, the assistant director of the Individualized Degree Program (IDP) at Trinity College in Hartford, has been on both sides of the academic fence. (Her mother was actually in the graduating class with Louise Fisher, who started the program in 1973.) Rogers attended Baypath College in Longmeadow, Massachusetts and then went to work at The Hartford Insurance Company. During that time, she took classes at both the University of Hartford and the University of Connecticut but still had this strong feeling that something was missing in her life.

She finally applied to Trinity. That application process was, she remembers, “the biggest hurdle….I felt that it was a long shot, and I wasn’t sure that I could bring to the table what they were looking for. I hadn’t been to school regularly for very many years.” But Rogers was accepted into the IDP in 1999; and there, at her mother’s alma mater, she found the “intellectual challenge and stimulation” she’d been missing. The classes were small, and she “felt that it was easy to engage with the professors.” That she mattered. “Every school isn’t right for every person. But Trinity was right for me.”

During that time, Rogers went through “a couple of developments that were personal and extremely painful” – her child’s serious illness, which necessitated regular trips up to a Boston hospital, and her divorce. “Both things could’ve derailed the course,” she reflects, “but my friends [in the IDP] and faculty mentors helped me stay the course. They provided support and encouragement. I was able to do teaching-assistantship and research-assistantship work for credit as opposed to carrying a full course load. It gave me the flexibility I needed. And that happens regularly with our students.”

Jan Neuberger, who graduated from Trinity in 2013, also spoke enthusiastically about the IDP. The actress was in the original company of “Wicked” when it hit her that the experience “was killing my heart and soul.” Hoping to get into a classical drama program, she searched for “a graduate program that didn’t require an undergraduate degree.” No luck. Then she happened upon the IDP.

The program changed her “in a very fundamental way,” she says, “because it opened so many windows.” And she, like Rogers, came away from it feeling that she had received “a tremendous amount of faculty support.”

Neuberger was 56 when she entered Trinity. There has always been “a wide range of ages” in the IDP, according to Dr. Diane Zannoni, the director. A member of the IDP council back in the 1970s, she has seen the program through a number of changes over the years. Students aren’t just focusing on their college coursework, she observes – they’re combining school with work and family. And many of them are coming in from other institutions with “an accumulation of credits. It could have been from a community college or a college they went to for three years. The idea is degree completion.”

Of course, she still sees many non-traditional students who are just starting out. But she sees “more people coming having already started. Many, many of our students are mothers with young children – not young women who are staying at home but who are working [and] with children.”

There’s another difference, says Rogers. The students entering the program are “more self-directed steadily moving women. I see more women who are returning younger.” And what’s more, they’re “very supportive to other women. I hear our female students talking about it, and they really appreciate it. I think it stimulates generosity.”

Friday, July 1, 2016

The Joy of Story: Elizabeth Goudge, Part II

 (Writing fiction about a real-life character isn't as easy as you'd think.  I don't know where this is going, but I'm going with it.)

                             PROLOGUE:  MARCH 31, 1984

          “There you go,” Jessie said.  She set the tea tray carefully down on the little table.
          Elizabeth smiled up from where she sat.  She picked up the dented but still elegant-looking coin silver spoon…one of the survivors of the set given to her parents as a wedding gift…and stirred her tea, remembering that long-ago day when she’d first met Jessie in the Providence Cottage garden in Devon.  Mother had just died, she recalled, and I was so horribly alone…glad that her suffering was over but feeling cut off from everything, even my writing.  And then Jessie came in response to my letter, her hair like a horse chestnut a-fire and her eyes clear and direct, and the loneliness began to let go of me….
          Jessie’s hair had gone rusty, and her figure was a tad thicker; but the face with its broad cheekbones was dearer.  Twenty-one years together had worn away all their edges, and they could talk about anything because they knew each other and each other’s stories inside-out.  The young woman who’d come to her as a companion had, in a sense, become the daughter she would’ve like to have had.
          All this and more passed through Elizabeth’s mind as she studied Jessie’s tired comfortable face….”I’d give anything to be able to go out into the garden,” she said with sudden wistfulness.
          “I know, love.”  Jessie’s voice was sympathetic yet matter-of-fact.  “But it’s much too damp for you with your arthritis.  Give it time, Elizabeth – it’s not as though there’s anything much out there to look at yet.  It’ll be warm soon enough for you to sit out there and soak up the sun while I get busy with the flowers again.”
          “You’re just itching to get your hands back in that soil, aren’t you?”  Elizabeth played with half her sandwich:  she wasn’t really hungry, but Jessie had gone to such trouble.  “And the dirtier you get, the happier you are.”
          Jessie grinned.  “You know how it is with me, Elizabeth.  I’m my best self when I’m gardening.  I come alive like one of the flowers and lose all sense of time.  It’s like what you feel when you’re writing, I expect.”
          Elizabeth abandoned her sandwich and reached for the tea.  She sipped it appreciatively.  One of Jessie’s own special teas, brewed from the comfrey she grew in the garden and thickly laced with honey.  And as she drank, her mind flitted about, landing like a butterfly first on this thought and then on the next.  “I wonder what those readers of mine would think if they knew that you’re the one who gives me the information about flowers and herbs that I work into my books,”   Elizabeth chuckled.
          “Ah, some of that’s from you,” Jessie replied.  She slipped a cushion behind the older woman’s bony back.  “And the soul behind them, that’s all you.  I can’t lay claim to any of that.”
          Elizabeth glanced up.  She tried to keep a straight face, but the corners of her mouth quirked up.  “Why, Jessie, you’ve been reading my books!”
          Jessie had come into her employ never having read any of her novels, something that Elizabeth had found refreshing.  She had always loved the letters from her readers, of course, but she’d also worried that they might have this impossible-to-live-up-to stained-glass image of her.  People never could separate fact from fiction and were always so sure they knew you better than you knew yourself after reading your books.
          “Well, I was bound to come to it sooner or later, wasn’t I?”  Jessie demanded with mock fierceness.  She walked over to the front window and began twitching the drapes unnecessarily.  Elizabeth sat there, nursing her tea.  You got the best revelations by holding yourself still and waiting; she’d learned that much over the years.  “I like them, Elizabeth, I do at that,” Jessie said slowly.
          She tilted her head to the side with an expression that made Elizabeth think of the robin from The Secret Garden“You know what I think?  I think you’ve got to read your books more than once.  Once just for the story, a second time for the descriptions – they’re rich, they are, Elizabeth – and a third for the meaning.”  She smiled – a warm, awkward smile like a fire slow getting started.  “So I expect I’ll be reading and re-reading them for quite some time.  Rest of my life, probably.”
          Elizabeth folded her thin hands, letting them rest on the edge of the table.  It had been worth waiting over thirty years to hear Jessie make such a speech and sweeter than any review she’d ever gotten. 
          Jessie ducked back out into the kitchen, leaving Elizabeth staring out the window.  Such a gray day, she thought.  Tomorrow would be April.  Her month.  I’ll be 84, she told herself and shook her head.  I don’t feel 84.  She glanced down at her hands lying so veined and fragile against the table’s wood and grimaced.  Mother was right:  your  hands do show your age faster than the rest of you.  And, of course, there was the osteoarthritis.
          She reached down and stroked her skirt, her right hand moving against the fabric with a kind of rhythm despite its swollen joints.  She’d always liked pretty clothes and things.  Never had thought much of her own looks, although she had rather liked her figure.  Tall and slim, she’d been, a feminine version of her father.  And her hair.  It had been long and beautiful….
          My knees didn’t bend outward back then, and I walked straight, Elizabeth remembered.  That’s what he said I was, straight and slender as a birch.  A dryad come to life.    She found herself yearning over that young woman, unencumbered by osteoarthritis, bright of eye (no thought of cataracts then!), and in love for the first time.  And she found herself yearning over Julian, too.  He had gone to dust and ashes years ago, and yet he was more real to her now than anyone, excepting Jessie.
          He had been married.  That and her upbringing had kept them in check.  But the memory of his touch still sent the blood in her veins thrumming…still made her paper-thin skin feel as though it was about to burst into flame.  It’s surprising how hot a man’s lips can be when he desires you, and there are times you think his arms will crack your ribs, and yet you glory in it.  The words of Harriet, her people-wise old woman from The Rosemary Tree, wandered unbidden into her mind just then, and she smiled wistfully.  Funny how the characters from her novels and the people she’d known were beginning to blur together in this last stretch.  Maybe it was because so much of her life had gone into her books.
                  Or maybe it was simply because her characters had always been so real to her.   Harriet…the Eliot Family, whose trilogy she still loved best of all novels…Fronigna, her white witch.  She still remembered that day so long ago, when she’d seen the beautiful woman step through the hedge, then vanish, though Elizabeth had never taken her eyes off her.  And that had paved the way for her novel The White Witch.
          Harriet…the Eliots…Fronigna….There was a pattern forming, if she could just grab hold of it.  Moving about the room – any kind of physical activity – helped whenever she was wrestling with something.  And movement wasn’t something that came easily to her these days.  Elizabeth frowned, biting her lower lip.  Jessie would be cross with her for risking it.  But she had to try.
          Grabbing hold of her wooden frame, she slowly got to her feet, every muscle and tendon screaming in protest.  She teetered and almost pitched forward.  What if her barely healed leg gave way and she did further damage to her already disintegrating spine? But then, just as suddenly, she righted herself and inched over to the front window.  “’Creep-mouse, creep-mouse,’” she murmured, the words of the old childhood rhyme tap-dancing in her brain.
          Finally, she stood, leaning into the glass, her eyes greedily taking in the landscape.  Didn’t matter that it was sodden and without any redeeming touches of green.  That would change, and she would be here to welcome it once again.  The familiar walls fell away, and she stood – well, metaphorically speaking -- on the threshold of yearning, unable to tell where the pain left off and the joy began.  But, then, it had always been that way with her, even in the days when her love for Julian had colored the picture, spilling over the lines.  Nothing had ever been unmixed for her:  tears in the midst of laughter, blessing bleeding heartache and piercing her soul.  I, crucified, become real.  More words, and she wondered which of her poems they had come from.
          And then she remembered.  It was the poem she’d started to write after Julian had left Ely; unable to finish it, she’d torn it up and fed the pieces to the fire.  She hadn’t thought of it since.  But this little ghost of a line had somehow survived and come back to haunt her now…
          Elizabeth’s eyes traveled to the large crewel embroidery piece hanging to the right of the window.  She’d done it years ago, just as the arthritis had started creeping up on her.  Two stags rested face-to-face under a tree; flitting under the tree’s flower-starred branches  were several birds, able to move freely while her fingers grew more swollen and knobby and her joints screamed at her to stop reaching, stop moving…
          She hobbled over to the needlework and touched the satin-stitched wing of one of the birds.  “’But they that wait upon the Lord shall have new strength,’” she murmured.  “’They shall fly with wings as eagles; they shall run and not grow weary; they shall walk and not faint.’”
          She found herself thinking back to her stay in hospital a few years earlier.  How she’d been lying there in the public ward after her fall, feeling pretty weary herself – weary of the pain, weary of everything – when a poem had come to her.  And because writing had always been a spiritual thing for her, the poem had been a sign.  A finding – or, rather, a re-finding – of faith and brought on by something as simple as Ida, one of the volunteers, wheeling the tea trolley on that Easter morning, “rattling and banging,
          Swaying and singing down the long ward
          Like a ship in full sail was Ida
          Crying aloud the tidings of joy
          ‘Cup of tea with sugar?    With sugar'
          …The risen sun filled the ward with light,
          We held out our hands for his bounty,”
Elizabeth murmured, remembering.  And the remembering sent out ripples, widening, ever widening….
          She turned from the embroidery piece, and there he was again.  Julian with his kind, amused eyes that missed very little…his lean face lined as it had been when she’d last seen him, then young and smooth as tanned leather.   The two faces flickered back and forth…a magic-lantern show…and she could not honestly say which she loved more.
          Loving him had been easier than breathing; the holding back had been the hard part.  And yet with them, the non-physical had been as powerful as the physical.  Perhaps more.  They had been circles overlapping one another, their souls somehow recognizing each other right from the start.  She reached one arthritic hand up, wanting to touch that face just one more time:  it flickered brightly, then gently faded away.
          Elizabeth sighed, her shoulders slumping.  She would’ve liked for Julian to stay longer.  She couldn’t always will him back, any more than she could always recall the words to her poems. Still, he seemed to come more often these days.  One of the perks of growing old, she supposed.
          Slowly, biting her lip, she made it back o her chair.  That certainly took the starch out of me, she thought, leaning her head back against the cool chintz fabric.  She glanced at the sandwich on her tray.  I’ll eat later.  A catnap is all I need now.
          She closed her eyes, letting the room wrap its silence around her.  Only as she was on the verge of dropping off did she become aware of a breeze flirting with her hair, which seemed oddly longer.  The curls were brushing against her neck, and the smell of sun-warmed raspberries teased her nose.  And then, suddenly, she was swaying and stumbling as she made her way along the tree-shaded path, the flecks of summer sunlight dancing on the leaves.  There was someone she had to find, but the trees confused her, there were so many of them, and they were so much taller than she remembered them being.
          Then Elizabeth saw him.  She had forgotten how slim and quick-footed her father had been in his younger days, had only remembered the frail old man she had sat with during his final illness.  He moved among the raspberry bushes now, picking the fruit and completely unaware of her.  Mother must’ve sent him to do that, she thought, knowing how much he hated doing anything domestic.  She hastened to catch up with him.
          But her legs had grown shorter and her skirts bunchier.  She tumbled over.  “Papa!”  she cried, but he was already disappearing among the nearby trees.
          Tears stung her eyes, but she blinked them back.  The sky was darkening, and the trees crowded around her, trying to keep her from him.  But she could still see a bit of the path…could just make out that long-legged well-loved figure disappearing down it….
          There was only one thing to do.  She picked herself up and ran on her stubby little legs after him.